What to do with a cheater

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By Jacob L

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  1. Jacob L

    Jacob L
    Franklin, IN

    I'm the number 1 ranked player on our golf team and our number 2 player cheats a lot. I don't know if i should call him out considering he is my team mate. I know for a fact he has cheated twice. I have other suspicions too because it seems whenever he doesn't play with a coach or me he never does well. He is also incredibly inconsistent. In a nine hole match he shot a 59 yes a 59 for 9 holes then went on 2 days later to shoot a 82 for 18 holes in a big tournament. I know we have several other players who deserve to play and he has just moved up to the 2 spot because he cheated in our sectional tournament. Everyone knows he cheated because we all watched him hack up a 7 on a par 4 and sign for a 5. My coach doesn't seem to notice or care. Im just worried hes hurting other players on our team. Any advice on what i should do?
  2. LEROY P

    LEROY P
    elmwood park, IL

    JACOB L, YOU WRITING TO TEAM TITLEIST ASKING FOR ADVICE SHOWS YOUR A GOOD KID AND YOUR PARENTS ARE RAISING YOU RIGHT!!! WHAT THE BOY WHO IS CHEATING IS DOING IS MORE HARMFULL TO HIMSELF THAN TO HIS TEAM, GRANTED HE IS HURTING HIS TEAM ALSO AND THE COACH HAS HIS NAME IN THE HANDS OF THE ONE WHO IS CHEATING. YOU BEING THE NO 1 PLAYER ON THE TEAM GIVES YOU SOME POWER TO SAY SOMETHING TO YOUR COACH TO CORRECT THIS PROBLEM. I WOULD FIRST TELL YOUR PARENTS WHAT IS GOING ON, TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS CHEATING AND ASK THEM IF IT IS OK FOR YOU TO SPEAK UP FOR THE TEAM. YOU ALL HAVE AN INVESTMENT IN YOUR GOLFING ON THE SCHOOL TEAM. IF THE COACH DOES NOT WHAT TO CORRECT THE PROBLEM OF CHEATING ON HIS TEAM, YOU'LL HAVE TO DECIDE IF BEING HONEST IS WORTH STOPPING YOU FROM PLAYING ON THIS TEAM. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE THROUGHT THIS OUT AND KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD DO. JACOB GO AND DO WHAT IS RIGHT AND GIVES YOU PEACE OF MIND, YOU WILL NEVER REGERT IT. YOU CAB STILL FIND A TEAM TO PLAY FOR. LOOK INTO JR. TEAMS THAT ARE SETUP BY YOUR LOCAL STATE PGA PROS.
  3. Hotsauce

    Hotsauce
    Georgetown MA

    Yikes! What a tricky situation. I think there are a couple of things you can do. 1. Like someone else said, talk to your folks and see what they say. Parents usually give good advise, and they won’t alienate you on your team. 2. Talk to your coach and team captain. Call a meeting with them between closed doors and let them know what you suspect. 3. Call him out next time he does it. You can do it direct “I know you doubled that hole.” Or indirect like “I thought you took two in those woods?” or “Didn’t you have to pitch out after your drive?” Sometimes being confronted will scare him enough to play straight. He’s really cheating himself, but he’s also cheating those guys that are at a lower rank and trying to play into competition. If it were me, I would talk to your folks and then your coach. If your coach doesn’t care then you’ve got bigger problems than a cheating teammate.
  4. Ted P

    Ted P
    Greensboro, NC

    All great advise.  When you play with him write his correct score down and if he questions you than directly confront him.  You can always refuse to sign his card.  I would also speak with your other team members as well as your coach.  This hopefully will change his ways and give him a valuable lesson learned now and definitely in the future not only for golf but also life.

  5. Edward L

    Edward L
    Jenison, MI

    TELL HIM HE IS NO LONGER WELCOME ON YOUR TEAM
  6. JPHB

    JPHB
    Brooklyn, NY

    I would confront your teammate first - try to sort it out with him - if he doesn't change his ways immediately, speak to the coach.

    I also like the idea that another TT Member had very very much - keep his score and if necessary refuse to sign his card - that's pretty much the way a professional would handle it, and it certainly makes it a black and white issue, without getting personal.

     

    Good luck

     

     

     

  7. ToddL

    ToddL
    Attleboro, MA

    I agree with JPHB.  Bring up your concerns directly with the player in private.  Describe the situation that you observed and let him respond.  Let him know that playing by the rules is an essential part of the game.  Then let him know that if you see it again, you will have to go to the coach.  

  8. Geoffrey B

    Geoffrey B
    Celina, OH

    I would probably talk to him privately, then go from there

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